By Jan Stribling, exclusive to Long2Wed

Dear Bridezilla,

It’s not worth it!

When your wedding day rolls around, things are going to go how they go, and there won’t be anything you can do to change the outcome.  You know what, though?  It will be the best day of your life no matter what because you are marrying the person you love, and that’s all that matters!

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Try to remember this when you are arguing with you poor mother about the dress she likes instead of the one you think is best.  Remember your love’s face when your bride’s maids are giving you fits because Lucy looks better in peach, but Jennifer thinks green brings out her eyes.

When your partner is loving on the chocolate cake, cut him or her some slack and add a chocolate layer between your Italian cream and vanilla bean.

Grey tux, black tux, vests, or Windsor knotted ties: let him have a choice and stop trying to control everything.

Let the seamstress altering your gown do what she does best and don’t give her hell because it’s not fitted perfectly the first time.  Bridal gowns rarely come fitted perfectly to your figure.  The lady trying her best to please you doesn’t need to be yelled at or berated.

Your mother-in-law to be wants you to marry in a church while you and your partner have chosen a beautiful outdoor setting?  Let your guy handle this one.  He needs to tell his mother what’s what.  Don’t start a driving a wedge between you and the in-laws before the wedding happens.

Don’t yell at your sister for wanting her weird boyfriend as the wedding and asking if he can be in the photographs.  Just ask the photographer to take a shot with him and one without. Toss the proof with him in it over to “file 13” once you have them in your hands.  She may even have a different boyfriend by the time you get the photos.

Stop the panic! The caterer can’t get the shrimp in on time then serve the chicken.  Who doesn’t eat chicken?  Besides, think of your guests with shellfish allergies.

The DJ is sending a substitute?  Don’t sweat it. As long as he can operate the sound system, it’s all okay.

That cute little ring bearer won’t walk down the aisle?  Forget him!  Flower girl too scared of all the people looking at her?  Walk down without her!  It really won’t matter in the long run.

If you have the luxury of a wedding planner, give her the reigns!  You’ll enjoy the planning time and the day of your wedding so much more.

Enjoy yourself, Bridezilla, and don’t take out your excitement and desire for perfection on everyone around you.  The end goal is the same: marrying the love of your life.

Jan Stribling, Author

Jan Stribling

Jan Stribling is an aspiring writer with a particular interest in relationships and marriage.  She has published her own magazine, He/She/Us, which focuses on these topics, and has written articles for All Women Stalk, an online women’s magazine.  At 50, she has returned to college for a degree in psychology.  She writes about being a mom to a 10-year-old boy on her own blog, Peonies and Popsicles.